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Are you a mother who is feeling stressed or overwhelmed by the demanding nature of your life? Have you just been diagnosed with post partum depression? Are you juggling the needs of family, friends and career and finding yourself with limited time to address your own personal needs, particularly your emotional needs?  Perhaps life has presented you with numerous road blocks that have kept you from reaching your personal and professional goals.  Maybe you just feel stuck in a rut that you can't quite identify or push past. Live Well Counseling is all about the MOM! Being a mom is the hardest job and we strive to give you the tools to be the best mom you can be. We offer support for individuals in the many phases of motherhood including pregnancy, post-partum issues, being a stay at home mom and a working mom. 

Is becoming a mother just not like you thought it would be?
Do you think you may have Postpartum Depression or Anxiety?
Have family members said your personality has changed? 
Have you been thinking a lot about a traumatic birth?
Did you not have the pregnancy that you wanted? 
Are you not adjusting to becoming a mother or becoming a mother of two as well as you would have liked?
Are you struggling with juggling your work, family and friends?
Are you having a difficult time getting pregnant?
Have you experienced a pregnancy loss or miscarriage?
Do you feel like your in a rut that you can't quite push past?
Do you want to make meaning of tragedy in your life?
These may be some of the questions you often ask yourself or have been thinking about or you may be having more intense feelings of despair and depression like below.

The Symptoms of Postpartum Depression & Anxiety (in Plain Mama English, adapted from PostPartum Progress)

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What does it feel like to have postpartum depression or postpartum anxiety?  What are the signs or symptoms?  How do you know when you have it? And if you do have it, what should you do?

Postpartum Anxiety & Obsessive Compulsive Disorder (OCD)

You may have postpartum anxiety or postpartum OCD if you have had a baby within the last 12 months and are experiencing some of these symptoms:

  1. Many people have a feeling like the ones listed below every now and then, for a day or two. We all have bad days. Postpartum depression and anxiety are not just bad days.  Women with PPD or anxiety have symptoms like these most of the time, for a period of at least 2 weeks or longer, and these symptoms make it feel very hard to live your life each day.
  2. Postpartum Depression Symptoms

    You feel overwhelmed.  Not like “hey, this new mom thing is hard.”  More like “I can’t do this and I’m never going to be able to do this.”  You feel like you just can’t handle being a mother.  In fact, you may be wondering whether you should have become a mother in the first place.

  3. You don’t feel bonded to your baby.  You’re not having that mythical mommy bliss that you see on TV or read about in magazines. Not everyone with PPD feels this way, but many do.
  4. You feel irritated or angry. You have no patience. Everything annoys you.  You feel resentment toward your baby, or your partner, or your friends who don’t have babies. You feel out-of-control rage.
  5. You feel nothing. Emptiness and numbness. You are just going through the motions.
  6. You feel sadness to the depths of your soul. You can’t stop crying, even when there’s no real reason to be crying.
  7. You feel hopeless, like this situation will never ever get better. You feel weak and defective, like a failure.
  8. You can’t bring yourself to eat, or perhaps the only thing that makes you feel better is eating.
  9. You can’t sleep when the baby sleeps, nor can you sleep at any other time. Or maybe you can fall asleep, but you wake up in the middle of the night and can’t go back to sleep no matter how tired you are.  Or maybe all you can do is sleep and you can’t seem to stay awake to get the most basic things done.  Whichever it is, your sleeping is completely screwed up and it’s not just because you have a newborn.
  10. You can’t concentrate. You can’t focus. You can’t think of the words you want to say. You can’t remember what you were supposed to do. You can’t make a decision. You feel like you’re in a fog.
  11. You feel disconnected. You feel strangely apart from everyone for some reason, like there’s an invisible wall between you and the rest of the world.
  12. Maybe you’re doing everything right. You are exercising. You are taking your vitamins. You have a healthy spirituality.  You do yoga. You’re thinking “Why can’t I just get over this?”  You feel like you should be able to snap out of it, but you can’t.
  13. You might be having thoughts of running away and leaving your family behind. Or you’ve thought of driving off the road, or taking too many pills, or finding some other way to end this misery.
  14. You know something is wrong. You may not know you have a perinatal mood or anxiety disorder, but you know the way you are feeling is NOT right. You think you’ve “gone crazy”.
  15. You are afraid that this is your new reality and that you’ve lost the “old you” forever.
  16. You are afraid that if you reach out for help people will judge you. Or that your baby will be taken away.
  17. Your thoughts are racing. You can’t quiet your mind. You can’t settle down. You can’t relax.
  18. You feel like you have to be doing something at all times. Cleaning bottles. Cleaning baby clothes. Cleaning the house. Doing work. Entertaining the baby. Checking on the baby.
  19. You are worried. Really worried.  All. The. Time.  Am I doing this right?  Will my husband come home from his trip?  Will the baby wake up? Is the baby eating enough? Is there something wrong with my baby that I’m missing? No matter what anyone says to reassure you it doesn’t help.
  20. You may be having disturbing thoughts.  Thoughts that you’ve never had before.  Scary thoughts that make you wonder whether you aren’t the person you thought you were.  They fly into your head unwanted and you know they aren’t right, that this isn’t the real you, but they terrify you and they won’t go away.  These thoughts may start with the words “What if …”
  21. You are afraid to be alone with your baby because of scary thoughts or worries.  You are also afraid of things in your house that could potentially cause harm, like kitchen knives or stairs, and you avoid them like the plague.
  22. You may feel the need to check things constantly. Did I lock the door?  Did I lock the car? Did I turn off the oven? Is the baby breathing?
  23. You may be having physical symptoms like stomach cramps or headaches, shakiness or nausea.  You might even have panic attacks.
  24. You feel like a captive animal, pacing back and forth in a cage. Restless.  On edge.
  25. You can’t eat.  You have no appetite.
  26. You’re having trouble sleeping.  You are so, so tired, but you can’t sleep.
  27. You feel a sense of dread, like something terrible is going to happen.
  28. You know something is wrong.  You may not know you have a perinatal mood or anxiety disorder, but you know the way you are feeling is NOT right. You think you’ve “gone crazy”.
  29. You are afraid that this is your new reality and that you’ve lost the “old you” forever.
  30. You are afraid that if you reach out for help people will judge you.  Or that your baby will be taken away.
  31. If you are pregnant and are having symptoms similar to those listed above, you should know that you aren’t unusual either.  You may have depression or anxiety during pregnancy, which is just as common.
  32. If you are having the symptoms listed above, there is no need to suffer alone. Don’t try to wait this out. Perinatal mood and anxiety disorders are temporary and treatable with professional help.
  33. f you are already past the first year postpartum and still suffering you could still have PPD or anxiety. Perhaps you never reached out for help in the first year and you are still struggling.
 

If any of these signs or symptoms feel familiar to you, know that you are not alone and Live Well Counseling can help you. Please call for a free phone consultation today. 908-336-1195

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